83% of women, 72% of men surveyed said they would be spending this holiday with their children

Divorcemag.com is running an online poll to ask if our visitors will be spending time with their children this coming holiday. The result so far indicates majority of the parents will be spending time with their children this holiday. You can read the poll here: http://www.divorcemag.com/poll_results.php

That is good news. I believe, children of divorce who can have the benefit of both parents and their extended family will have a fuller family experience. 

The result also shows that 80% of the mothers who answered the poll have the child/children of divorce most of the time vs 36% of the fathers who answered the poll. You may want to join our poll and tell us whether you think 50/50 child access between two parents should be the starting point of the law. You don’t have to be divorced to vote/voice our opinion.  Vote here: http://www.divorcemag.com/survey/quickpoll.shtml.

Martha Chan is the co-owner and V.P. Marketing of Divorce Marketing Group and Divorce Magazine.

Study says: Marriage improves after the kids leave home

A study says that marriage improves after the kids leave home.  It made sense to me almost immediately after I read the heading.  It poses some interesting conclusions and questions about who we are as parents. But you should see for yourself. Read about this study on how marriage improves after the kids leave home if you have children.

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I can kind of see why.  In talking to friends from our age group, some of them are really concerned that their kids are not taking the initiative to do what it takes to get jobs and support themselves.  So, they end up staying at home much longer than some parents want them to.  Inevitably the conversation is “when I was their age, I was doing this and that, had a job….”  One friend said her brother left home at the age of 45!  Somebody once told me that he sent his son off traveling to Asian with an American Express card that he gave to his son.  Every now and then, a big shipment would arrive at home, sent by his son.  Every now and then, the American Express bill will arrive to tell him how much that shipment cost him. Another friend was afraid her kids are going to suck up all their savings. At the same time, most parents agree that we have to take responsibility for having allowed that to happen.  I guess different generation, different thinking.

Martha Chan is the co-owner and V.P. Marketing of Divorce Marketing Group and Divorce Magazine.